Once I had accepted the realities o my prognoses, I had to prepare Grace Ann for the possibility of moving on without me. We had been putting off updating our wills. It's never convenient and, it is easy to put off. I manage all out investments, pay all the bills; etc. She's more than capable of doing these things, but didn't have the interest. So, I had to come up with a plan to get all of our affairs under her umbrella. I had a cousin who, coincidentally, died of lung cancer, who was the greatest guy in the world. Loved him dearly. He was so convinced that he was going to survive, that he did not prepare his wife to handle their personal affairs. Hope is a wonderful thing, but it can be your greatest enemy. When he died, he not only left her emotionally devastated. But, for months after, she was trying to find all of the important financial, legal, and personal documents. It was an ordeal that no spouse should have to deal with. You have to have hope, but you have to prepare for the worst. So, I have made a list of all the bills and how they are paid (auto-deduct, mail etc.); I have set up our investments under a financial manager; even little things like how to turn on/off the sprinkling system. It's amazing how many little things there are to remember. But, the point is you must prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
Ron
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